Bright lights in the city! Without the understanding of Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia the phrase above just reminds you of the summertime in a very populated place or even a song. However, the phrase today has a double meaning for me at this time.
Imagine reminiscing the good times with a loved one such as your mother, father or grandparent (someone mature in age). The memories of the past are the lights. The laughter and “good” times is the city with all of the wonderful action.
For a person who learns of a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia, it feels like the bright lights begin to fade, and the city noise becomes quiet. The learned person hits a denial, because they want that “party” of memories to be explosive and give them the energy to move forward in the same fashion that they have lived for decades. But that can not continue in the same way anymore. You become an introvert and possibly unable to share the life that you are experiencing with your loved one. You are almost scared to discuss this with friends and especially co-workers.
Though you feel as though the lights are dim or even out in the city, there is hope and encouragement along the way of living with your loved one with Alzheimer’s Disease or Dementia. the biggest piece of advise is…take one day at a time. I have learned that no matter how many websites, phone calls or even talks with the physicians the process of the disease and the daily life that one lives can only be lived one day at a time. Each day will be a new experience, but the city lights that you once remember will be back from a different view, but they are there. Enjoy the time with your loved one and yes…continue your research to learn how to live with your loved one in your life. Support is the best as you continue your journey viewing the “city lights.”
© 2013 Jewel Williams
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